RTing your own compliments! cool or not cool?

I have a serious question. I’m hoping to be enlightened. I need to know what is up with RTing your own compliments. I see it regularly in the twitterverse from the big and the not-so-big alike.

Here’s my thoughts on this:

1. It is not ok for you to tell people that you are awesome, talented and a great person.

2. It is perfectly ok for me to tell people that you are awesome, talented and a great person.

See the difference?

Why do I feel this way about RTing your own compliments?

1. I guess I think that talk is cheap. That actions speak louder than words.

2. That if you have to tell me you’re amazing, then perhaps you’re having to do this because you’re really not. At least it isn’t evident in your day to day life.

3. Perhaps I prefer people who are confident and humble. As opposed to arrogant with an overactive ego.

4. Perhaps I’m just completely misguided and need to be set straight.

How do you get people to talk about or tweet about you?

Change their life! Do something for them. Make an introduction. Share a cool article. Write about something that’s of value to them. Figure out a way you can (easily enough) positively influence their life. It’s not hard nor does it have to take much time.

If I had to build a case for the other side, defending RTing my own compliments,  it may look something like this:

1. It’s PR. I want to raise my awareness to people beyond my first degree connections. (when you use someone’s twitter handle in a tweet, everyone who follows the tweeter and the twitter handle in the tweet, gets to see the tweet, thus exposing you to more people)

2. I’m giving the other person visibility too. The above idea works in reverse.

3. There is nothing wrong with telling people you’re great. If you are. You are. People should know.

4. Never thought of it this way before…

5. Ok. I can’t think of any other reasons good enough to go here. Maybe you can help me? I would really like to understand the flip side. From where I stand, I can’t see it being a good thing.

So, is it me, or do we all think that RTing your own compliment is something for the DO NOT DO list?

6 Responses to RTing your own compliments! cool or not cool?
  1. Jackie Adkins
    March 23, 2010 | 7:25 am

    I saw this tweet come through my stream and HAD to check it out. This is something that has always irked me. I know the online space can’t be compared 1 to 1 to real life, but to me RT’ing compliments is really you saying “hey everyone, come see how awesome I am!”

    As you said, I think that you should let your actions speak for themselves and definitely thank people who compliment you. And, there’s definitely a time and place for testimonials (on your website or blog, perhaps).

    I’m glad you brought this up, Shannon! I wonder if people who do this even are aware that some people consider it not cool?

  2. Shannon
    March 23, 2010 | 7:29 am

    Hey Jackie! I really don’t know. I see so much of it that I’m starting to wonder, maybe I’m missing something here. But like you, I see your virtual behaviour to be a reflection of real world behaviour. But then… I tend to agree with you. Perhaps people don’t fully appreciate that the life you lead in this space gives people a perception of what you’re like in real life. We shall see. I definitely cringe a bit when I see it. And funny thing… I tend to see it from the bigger, more popular among us.

  3. Shannon
    March 23, 2010 | 7:41 am

    Interesting. So a twitter conversation with @Optimom gave me a thought – is RTing a compliment on twitter any different than presenting a list of testimonials on your website or … a bunch of recommendations on your linkedin profile?

    Hmmm… is RTing on twitter equivalent to having a Testimonial section on your own website?

  4. Reeta Luthra | Stress and Health
    March 23, 2010 | 7:50 am

    Well a testimonial is meant to reassure and attract new clients. RT’s on twitter generally only get seen by your own followers!

    So it seems a bit desperate to RT your compliments. Also RTing when someone #FF’s you seems a bit pointless.

  5. Shannon
    March 23, 2010 | 7:57 am

    Very valid point. HAH! I am far more comfortable with the recos on linkedin or the testimonials posted on a site. I tend to think the RTing of your own compliments should be left to everyone else… not the recipient of the tweet.

    If the perception of someone RTing their own compliments is negative… and perception is reality…

  6. Josip
    March 24, 2010 | 4:23 pm

    If you would not normally call everyone to tell them that you just received a great compliment from someone, why would you bother RTing it.

    Just imagine getting a call that sounded like this: “Hey, I was working on something. I did a great job” (50 characters by the way).

    Great people don’t have to tell everyone they’re great. They’re “great” because they believe in themselves and we believe in them. It’s definitely a characteristic given to us, but not by our own choosing.

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